Pick up the slack
Welcome to the marriage vault. This is where two hearts can be secured in the love of God. If you find your relationship has been robbed by separating forces, you can have it restored by God's binding love (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).
Have you ever watched someone struggle while trying to carry bags of groceries? It seems the more they struggle the more things fall out the bags.
All the person wants to do is make it to the car where they can drop those troubling packages, sit in their car and breathe relief. I've seen individuals in the grocery store watch a person stumble with their bags but offer no help. I've also seen people wait until everything crashes to the floor before offering assistance.
Is it like this in your relationship? Many couples struggle with how to pick up the slack when their mate is in a falling situation. Instead of emulating the "Jack & Jill" scenario, one should be able to assist the "Jack" by giving their hand and fixing his crown.
The word slack is defined as something not taut or held tightly in position; to be loose. It’s like the part of a rope or line which is not held taut; the loose or unused part.
Watching your mate drop a few groceries is one thing. How about going rock climbing and her trusting in you to hold your end of rope that keeps her from falling? That might be an extreme view of someone slacking on their love responsibilities.
But the little slack events can turn into extreme disappointment. Ever get into a disagreement with your spouse over something trivial and hear her shout "Why didn't you help me!" We've all seen the cartoon where someone is sinking in the water, and they hold up one finger, then two fingers, then three.
Why does it always take the third finger to come out the water before someone throws them a rope? Solomon mentioned in his writings that two is better than one (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12). But can two be a hindrance to each other?
Can one drain the other of expectations? What do you expect of your mate? Those of you who have been blessed with children know that the real slack for any dad is not so much being there for diaper changes, bottle feedings, or getting up for those two o'clock in the morning cries.
The greatest testimony shared by women that I've spoken to about their husband's picking up the slack was when they were there during those agonizing moments of child labor. Those childbearing classes can help prepare the husband to sacrifice personal time for the highest good of his wife.
Cooperating with others has advantages. Life is designed for companionship, not isolation, for intimacy, not loneliness. We are here on earth not to serve ourselves, but to serve God and others.
Many couples can have greater understanding by just offering themselves in times of need. In Solomons last explanation of two being better than he said these words in verse 12. "And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken" (Ecclesiastes 4:12 KJV).
God is part of the threefold holding you both together. When you invite him into the areas of your relationship, God picks up the slack to make your love lives taut and binding. He is the love glue that holds your hearts together.
In the "Back to the future" trilogy movies, the word "slacker" was used. It simply means a person who shirks work, obligation and responsibility. A slacker will hold back on effort. The biblical rendering of the word slack (raw-faw) Hebrew is to be feeble, to live alone, to be slothful, to sink down, let drop, be disheartened. and (bradunō) Greek is to delay, be slow, or tarry.
God never slacks in holding our lives together. He is not slow in rendering us the must needed help when our lives are in need of saving (2 Peter 3:9).
God may seem slow to answer your marital concerns when difficulties come. But God is not slow; he is simply not on our timetable (Psalm 90:4). It's not God's will that any marriage should perish. Marriage was created for life (eternity).
Today, you can remove the slack in your relationship. Just invite the capable hands of God into those weak areas. He will strengthen your hands to commit sacrificial love to one another.
"In that day it shall be said to Jerusalem, Fear thou not: and to Zion, Let not thine hands be slack (Weak)." (Zephaniah 3:16 KJV)
If you are facing a battle with internal or external circumstances that cause you to shirk those marital responsibilities that have defeated you in the past and brought division in your communication, God can give you the strength you need to overcome any obstacles.
💞 Hold on, grip tightly
📕 Don't slack in reading these other helpful tips to stay taut in your relationship. (Deuteronomy 23:21; Joshua 18:3; Proverbs 6:6-9; 10:4,26; 13:4; 15:19;24:10).
Reminder for your marriage vault:
Remember to prepare a round table discussion room in your home. This is a place where you both can bring your one heart into the room and invite Jesus into it. Also keep two Bibles, note paper, and pen or pencil. Keep the room in soft lit lighting and always begin every conversation you have with prayer.
When you’re not in the room, always keep it locked if possible. Keep children out unless the Lord wants them in the discussion. Always remember to show kindness and respect to each other. Remember, both your hearts, are located in the same place.
Worship Center Ministry
Pastor Todd Boxley
*Please note: There will be new messages posted on a monthly basis. You can still check out previous messages when new ones are posted. God bless your marriage.
Husbands Love Your Wives..... Ephesians 5:25