Under The Circumstances
Welcome to the marriage vault. This is where two hearts can be secured in the love of God. If you find your relationship has been robbed by separating forces, you can have it restored by God's binding love (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).
How many of you perform at a high level when pressure comes?
In the plumbing industry it is said that extreme pressure can burst certain pipes. Under the right circumstances, certain pressures can work in one's favor. In the fire department industry, they depend on pressure to have the right amount of water needed to maximize the best effective way to neutralize a fire.
Relationships can thrive in powerful love for one another when surprise circumstances bring pressure. Many couples have had to take on many changing circumstances in their households. It may have started with the appearance of Covid. Managing the household around a variant no one could see. Making sure the family was OK with certain guidelines you implemented in the home.
But there are other circumstances that some couples wilt under the pressure to perform at the highest level for their husband or wife. Have you ever confided in a best friend about your spouse always folding under pressure when you want to talk about finances? For some of you it could be intimacy issues. For some it could be handling your favorite pet. It could be discussing the kids’ academics.
There's this pressure you have in your relationship that keeps sending you both to each corner of the house. That same circumstance keeps rearing its ugly head. You love each other, you just want things to get better. Well, God understands what you’re going through. He has a way of providing the right plan while carrying those burdened circumstances so you can simply love and enjoy each other the way he intended.
The Bible tells us to bear one another's burdens (Galatians 6:2). God will never allow each of you to carry more than you can bear. Have you ever heard someone make the statement "under the circumstances, we're actually doing very well.”? It's possible to be under something and still be ok.
The Bible speaks to the advantage that couples have in tackling their circumstances. Solomon wrote that two are better than one (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).
When one of you go through difficult circumstances, the other can be the gentle hand to lift those emotional burdens. Here are some practical ways you both can come out on top of your circumstances, instead of under them. You never want the world on your shoulders. God has the earth as his footstool (Isaiah 66:1). When you walk on his foundation, the burdens are steppingstones to victory.
1) Circumstance: Examine your circumstances through prayer. Invite Jesus in the process. Make sure there has been no behaviors that are sinful in the household. Example. Joshua and Achan (Joshua 7:19-24; Hebrews 12:1,2).
2) Circumstance: Trust in God for strength and wisdom to deal with negative circumstances (Isaiah 12:2). Allow God to guide your steps over every obstacle (Proverbs 15:3). Depend on God in your home.
3) Circumstance: Deal with the negative wedge between the two of you. Living in this new normal has caused couples to evaluate everything. Love and being safe from unseen variants shouldn't cause verbal chaos in your home. Research conducted by the National Science Foundation* found that 80% of our thoughts are negative. You can deal with those barrage of negative thoughts (2 Corinthians 10:4-6; Isaiah 26:3,4).
4) Circumstance: Nothing is too hard for God to give you victory over your circumstances. You and your spouse may think the problem is bigger than the both of you, but God has a unique way of making a mountain look like an ant hill. (Jeremiah 32:27; Isaiah 41:10). Nothing is too difficult for our God to help us overcome.
5) Circumstance: Always remember that God uses circumstances to achieve his purpose in your life. He wants you both to trust him fully (Proverbs 3:5,6). God can turn all your overbearing circumstances around for the good. (Genesis 50:20,21). God is in control. The Lord is never caught off guard by you or your spouse’s problems or situations.
Always keep the truth in front of your eyes. Know that Jesus is with you both. You can surrender your anxieties and control of the circumstances to God in prayer.
Choose joy and faith over your circumstances. Live above it all.
Reminder for your marriage vault:
Remember to prepare a round table discussion room in their homes. This is a place where you both can bring your one heart into the room and invite Jesus into it. Also keep two Bibles, note paper, and pen or pencil. Keep the room in soft lit lighting and always begin every conversation you have with prayer.
When you’re not in the room, always keep it locked if possible. Keep children out unless the Lord wants them in the discussion. Always remember to show kindness and respect to each other. Remember, you both are on the same stage together.
Worship Center Ministry
Pastor Todd Boxley
*Please note: There will be new messages posted on a monthly basis. You can still check out previous messages when new ones are posted. God bless your marriage.
Husbands Love Your Wives..... Ephesians 5:25